There is no denying that it was so difficult to return to work after my mat leave was finished. With Lincoln being my first, I didn’t know how any of this was going to go. I was also starting a new job which made me even more anxious. To my surprise, Linc did amazing with my mom and at daycare so it was a pretty easy transition. I think I had a harder time adjusting than he did!
Do a trial run. Drop your child off at daycare and time out your drive to work. In my case I was starting a new job so I didn’t know exactly how long it was going to take to get to work so I wanted to make sure I gave myself enough time. This helped alot!
Work out the logistics. Not only should you time out your drive to work but before my first day, I set my alarm and got up when I thought I would need to in order to get myself and Lincoln ready and out the door on time. I made sure all of his meals and snacks were ready to go and everything was organized. Being and staying organized has helped keep my sanity(at least somewhat) and has helped me in the evenings when I get home.
Work less hours/days than you did before you had baby(if possible). This was huge for me. I knew I didn’t want to go back to work 5 days. I wanted to work 3 or 4 days at least for a little while until we got back into the swing of things. I quickly realized that 4 days was more than enough and that it was a good balance. I get the 1 day off during the week and still get weekends to be with my family. It is all working out great for our family!
Accept the exhaustion. Seriously. Naturally, Rol and I are night owls. We stay up way too late but we are working on going to bed earlier. I try my best to go to bed at a decent time so I am not exhausted when I wake up but it seems that motherhood is just exhausting no matter what. I have learned to accept that and just do my very best!
Ask for help. This was HUGE for me. I had a problem asking for help. I thought I could do it all on my own but I couldn’t. I starting asking Rol for more help whenever I felt overwhelmed or tired and it has helped me so much. Don’t be afraid to ask for help mama. It does not mean you are weak. You have to take care of yourself so you can be the best mama you can be. I have learned to accept and embrace that fact and it has made my life a hell of a lot easier ever since!