Baby Parker is here! And we are loving all of his sweet baby snuggles. Parker’s birth story is of course different than Lincoln’s but one thing they have in common is that they both arrived quickly!
Parker was born at 40 weeks+ 2 days and Lincoln was born at 37 weeks+5 days. That being said….by the time I reached 37 weeks pregnant with Parker I was so anxious he going to arrive any day. Because Lincoln was early, my midwives said given my history, there was no way I would make it to my due date. Parker proved us all wrong!
For those of you reading this that don’t know, I had an unplanned home birth with my first son Lincoln. It went so well that I knew I wanted a home birth from the get-go if we were lucky enough to be blessed with another baby. Then COVID-19 hit in March of this year and although baby wasn’t due until August I wasn’t sure what was going to happen. Thankfully everything worked out and I was able to have the home birth I so badly wanted!
Ready For Baby!
2 days prior to Parker being born(his due date), I went to see my midwife for a routine visit. We had discussed having a stretch and sweep done by this point if he still hadn’t arrived yet so she performed one for me at this visit to hopefully get things moving. For those mamas out there who have never had one done, I will warn you they are super uncomfortable but they can be super effective. The way my midwife described it to me was that if my body was ready to go into labour say the next day, that I could possibly go into labour that night instead. Your body has to naturally be ready soon in order for it to work or be effective.
At this point I was so ready to meet him that I wanted to try it. While she was performing the sweep she thought she broke my water a little bit. She told me this had never happened to her before but to go home and wait for the “big gush” and to call her when it happens. I was nervous and definitely thought I would be having a baby that evening! I was 3-4 cm dilated at this point.
Nothing happened that night so I went back into the office the next day for them to double check and see if it was actually my water that broke. Turns out it wasn’t, so she performed another stretch and sweep since I was there. This was my decision to have another one done. While doing the sweep she said I was now 4-5cm dilated and 70% effaced. Because I had 2 sweeps done 2 days in a row I was super crampy and uncomfortable. I couldn’t differentiate braxton hicks from cramping due to the sweep.
Is Baby Coming Tonight??
She said there is something called the “Midwives Brew” that I could drink if I wanted to help induce labour. I went to the store after that appointment, grabbed what I needed and went home to drink it! It is a mixture of apricot juice, almond butter, castor oil and verbena oil. I know it sounds crazy which is why I am going to say this….
1. Do not I drink it unless you are past your due date. 2. Do not drink it without consulting with your health care provider first.
Anyways…I drank the brew at 5:30pm(tastes gross btw), my mucous plug came out at 6:30pm and by 8:30pm contractions had started. Based on how quick Linc’s labour was, I called my midwife right away. She arrived at my house by 9:30pm. I also called my Doula who came right away just in case. Contractions were a few minutes apart, lasting 30-40 seconds. She checked me and said I was still 5cm dilated so to hang tight and try and get some sleep. The contractions were pretty bad but they had slowed down to about 10 minutes apart so I did manage to get some sleep in between them. My midwife left but my Doula stayed and slept on the couch. I felt so much better having her there just in case things picked up overnight!
Labour And Delivery!
I woke up the next day feeling the same way so I called my midwife around 9:30am and told her what was going on. She told me I could have another dose of the “Midwives Brew” if I wanted to and that she would call me around noon to see if things had progressed. She came by the house around 12:30pm. I was still 5cm dilated and contractions were about 10 mins apart. She left and told me to call if anything progressed throughout the day. Contractions started getting more intense around 2pm and by 2:30pm they were debilitating. In that half hour they started picking up and were 2-3 mins apart lasting 45-60 seconds.
Rol called my midwife and she rushed back to the house. I texted my Doula and she rushed over as well. My Doula arrived first and then my midwife arrived about half an hour later. My Doula got me situated and comfortable on our bed while labouring. When my midwife arrived she checked me and said I was now 7-8cm dilated. Contractions were still 2-3 mins apart lasting almost a minute and they were intense!!
We tried different positions to get baby to drop further down the birth canal until I finally felt the urge to push. Pushing was long and hard!! I had to push so much harder and longer than I did with Linc. Once he was born my midwife realized it was so hard because he came out sunnyside up which is very uncommon. My midwife said only 5% of women can successfully vaginally birth a baby that way without assistance from forceps or a suction. This means we would have had to transfer to the hospital so I am super thankful that I was able to do it all on my own!!
Parker was born on August 21st at 5:37pm,weighing exactly 8lbs and 20 inches long. Fun fact: Linc was born at 5:35pm 😊
All in all, I was in active labour for 3 hours and 15 minutes so about the same as I was with Linc but Parker’s birth was alot harder on my body this time around. I know every birth and every baby is different so I am thankful to have been able to birth my 2 boys at home surrounded by so much love and comfort.
My Support Team❤️
I had an amazing support team. My husband, my mom, my doula and my midwives were all there supporting me and cheering me on as I brought our baby boy into the world. I seriously couldn’t be more blessed and lucky especially with the current state this world is in. I know so many mamas who had to give birth alone or were only allowed one person in the room while delivering. Giving birth is a roller coaster of emotions as it is but adding a global pandemic to the mix makes things that much scarier and isolating.
Mamas, let’s continue to support each other always 💕