You’re a new mom or a second, third, fourth or fifth time mom. Your new life is exciting, scary and busy AF so when do you find the time to take care of yourself or spend time with your spouse or other kids? There are not enough hours in the day to do everything you need and want to do. Priority as a mom is your kids. Of course. But when do you make time for your spouse or family? For me it’s ALWAYS.
The Truth Of The Matter Is..
Some of you may not agree with what I am about to say but it’s true. Hypothetical situation(not speaking from personal experience)…You get married and now you want start a family. You get pregnant and delivery your baby. Your life is taking care of this baby and making sure they are safe(greatest and scariest pleasure in the world) but what about your spouse? All of the time that you once spent together is now shared and mostly taken over by this baby. You have no time or energy left at the end of your day for your husband. You fall into a rut and as time goes on you start to resent him or get depressed. If you think about it, it was just you and him before this baby. You created this life together and created this beautiful baby. Without each other you wouldn’t be here. I can see how easy it would be to fall into this rut. I understand, but making time for eachother also needs to be priority.
My husband works long hours especially now that I am on mat leave so it is very hard for us to find time to spend together BUT we make the time. Whether we sit down and chat about our day or we watch tv . It is our ‘us’ time and it is very important to us both. Neither of us can just go to bed without spending some time together first. It just wouldn’t feel right.
We also make a point to go on date nights at least once a month. I know that doesn’t sound like a lot (because it’s not haha) but it is all we can do right now while Linc is still so young. We are extremely blessed to have my parents in our lives who offer to take Linc while we go out(stress free night out is where it’s at). If one month is especially busy than we stay in and we watch movies which is just as good.
I KNOW life is crazy and busy but if you don’t stop to spend time with your loved ones than what’s the point? It is so important for your kids and your spouse. Please do it if you don’t already. It can be once a week, once a month or once every couple of months. Who cares just do it!
Making Time For Yourself
Making time for yourself is also very important. Whether it is working out, reading a book, going out or blogging, make time for it. For me, I still have a lot of guilt making time for myself or leaving Linc at home with Rol so I can meet up with friends or get my hair done BUT I need it and so do YOU. Do not feel guilty. It is good for your mental health. I feel so much more refreshed and calm once I get home after taking time for myself. Momming is hard. Crack open that bottle of wine. You deserve it.